Restore Balance

Restore Balance

The Difference Between Solitude and Lonely

The Problem

People don’t understand the difference between solitude, and lonely. These two idea’s are on completely different ends of the spectrum. It is important to understand the difference.

Solitude

You have good connections, and choose to spend some time alone. Notice two points here: 1. You have good connections. 2. Choosing of your own free will to spend some time alone. Solitude can be a very good thing, and very useful. You likely feel refreshed and a sense of purpose when you do this.

It can help restore balance, meaning, and purpose in your life. Some use from solitude can be very good.

Lonely

Lonely is when you don’t have good connections, feel unwanted, and even in your best efforts to restore balance, you fail. Lonely is being alone, when it is not wanted, or needed. Lonely is when you reach out to others, and they reject your efforts, and treat you like you mean nothing to them. Bad connections, and a feeling of being stuck in a bad situation, you don’t like.

Lonely is being sad because one does not have friends, or company.

What Is

Lonely is when you have to walk on eggshells to keep the peace. Lonely is when you want someone to understand your point of view, and no one will give a damn. Lonely is a feeling of punishment, isolation, and bad feelings.

Notice that these feelings are not present when enjoying some solitude. That is a big difference. It is important to notice the difference between solitude, and isolation. The former is better, than the latter. Seems in today’s world, a lot of people feel lonely. They want someone to understand their point of view, and feel like they matter.

Ways To Restore

Be kind to others. Give a listening ear to them. Help them feel connected, understood, and wanted. You have to nurture good feelings, and connection with others in life. The importance here, is that you care; you have to actually give a damn about other people. Being hard, ridged, and uncaring, doesn’t actually bring good results. You have to be better than that.

Conclusion

Solitude is a good thing, and when you can get some; you should. Loneliness, isolation, and solitary confinement on the other hand are painful, and hurt like a son of a bitch. Be kind to those who are hurting, and want some comfort. Being understanding, and listening to others, can make a huge difference. Remember to be kind.