Thoughts. . .

Thoughts. . .

Some things I’ve been thinking!

The Problem:

Living in the past, or future, is a problem. Only living in the present, really makes a lot of sense. You have to wonder what makes people really great? I have some ideas about that.

Solutions

Living in the present makes the most sense. This idea, that you can change the future, by thinking about it; does nothing good. What I don’t like, is this idea, that people want to hurt me, and things are outside my control to make my own future. It does however seem that I’m not able to change my life, not to save my life. To quote Johnny Cash, “Tomorrow won’t be different in a hundred yesterdays.”

The problem is, some of the here and now, is really boring. No one seems to care. What people make the best friends? I would say, those that are in the present, current with the here and now. People that don’t take themselves too seriously, and have a sense of humor. People that listen, and think. Those that have two way conversations with another living person. When someone only has one way conversations with other people, they run into talking, “TO” the other person, like they are a warm sack of shit. That doesn’t work for me.

So you have to have conversations that work both ways. Otherwise, why bother? To be honest, the problems with this world, suck. People are no longer reciprocating, and everyone is out to prove they are the superior person, they have however, forgotten how to be kind. Sick world.

Need someone to talk with me. The isolation, sucks. The human race, ghosting me, like I’m not an existing person. Someday, I will be gone, and they will have missed out on my company. Pity, they won’t learn it until it’s too late.

Some people don’t care. Wish it were better. You have to wonder, if these people even know themselves at all? How well do these people know themselves? Really, the first person you have to be friends with, is yourself.

Seems, you have to be your own best friend. Only then, can you be friends with other people. This article has some good advice on being friends with yourself, see link. Things taken into consideration, life throws some tough choices into your life. How you respond to those things, is what matters.

You have to be willing to forgive, and learn, and grow, and admit to when you make mistakes. People don’t like it when you make big mistakes, so avoid those. Still, life does some strange stuff. Sometimes, you have to just outgrow that stuff.

You have to like yourself, first, and foremost. In order to like yourself, you have to know yourself. If you don’t know yourself, then how can you really like who you are? If you chase the crowds, you become one of the group, just another sheep in the herd. Then group think sets in, and you become just like the five people you spend time with. Really, you have to challenge yourself to spend some time with yourself on your own two feet. Get to know who you are. Once that can happen, then you can go forward with better results.

Sometimes, the fewer people you spend time with, the better off you will be. One thing, that may be certain, you will have fewer problems. You have to be patient with yourself, and sometimes, you have to let life unfold before your very eyes. Regardless of being good or bad, life will unfold.

You also have to free yourself from limiting beliefs that will hold you hostage, and sometimes, that involves some amount of pain to change your life.