The Real Solution To My Loneliness

The Real Solution To My Loneliness

Everyone is feeling something, We have to fix this!

The Problem:

Understanding is key. People fear what they don’t understand, and if they don’t take steps to try and understand, they will live in fear their whole lives. The real problems with loneliness is are as follow:

The Two Points

Solitude is good, loneliness is bad (See Article). So what is the difference? Most people who feel lonely have a reason. Some of these reasons may be because of low self esteem, or the need for validation. When you have low self esteem, and seek validation you can not get, it creates a cycle of failure that rips you up. The only way to gain yourself respect back is to stop the cycle. You have to stop seeking approval and validation. You have to give that to yourself.

Really you have to be able to raise your self esteem, and your validation to points that are healthy. Be aware, have a care. Self awareness matters a lot. Take responsibility for your actions.

The system is built to take advantage of your weakness. Get tough.

Bustle had some interesting articles about stopping the seeking of validation. If you read these there are some things to remember, no one is perfect, and people all make mistakes. Seeking validation from the wrong people is more destructive than helpful. And really how does a person make it better?

The Big Five And Being A Master of Life

The big five personality traits are:

1. Openness
2. Conscientiousness
3. Agreeableness
4. Extraversion
5. Neuroticism

To really master life, you have to be able to level up on the first four, and leave the fifth element completely void. You have to be able to show, demonstrate, and exhibit the ability to have the first four points, in good working order. With as few or no of the points of the fifth problems.

Think about this chart, and where your needs are not being met.

My Suggestions Are:

Find out as much as you can about yourself, and work on what you lack. There are the 24 character traits, and you should take the test. Then there is the 16 personalities, which has groups of people by some of the big five.

Most people, who you wish would change, won’t. Try changing something about yourself and see how difficult it really is. If you're not able to change things about yourself, then you really can not expect other people to change things about themselves. Really we have to be loving, giving, and be kind. We need to have a world that is better adapted to being nurturing.

The hate in this world, has become really ugly, and it is a problem. Leave your hate behind, and nurture the instincts of being altruistic, and having unconditional love. At least then, maybe the world will be a kinder place, and we won’t have love and kindness become luxury goods in life.

Maybe if we all work together towards helping each other, while being kind, there will be results we can live with.

Connection

People need to feel a sense of having connection. When that is lacking, then the person will suffer. When no one responds to your attempts to make connections, you have to ask if it is really your problem, or if the world is not in fact, Mad.