5 Steps Towards Being Happy, Simple Solutions To Complex Problems

5 Steps Towards Being Happy, Simple Solutions To Complex Problems

What they won’t tell you.

Stop, Think, Listen

Everyone will tell you what to do. Few are thinking about the whole picture.

Stop The Self Pity

Everyone says, practice gratitude. What they don’t tell you is why. Unless the root of the problem is fixed, regardless of how much gratitude you practice, you will continue to manifest problems in your life. You have to fix things at the root of the problem.

Googles Definition Of Self Pity

You have to get out of the self pity trap. Start living for real. Fake, shallow living will not satisfy your real needs. You have to find your real true authentic self. This means you need to know yourself.

Spend Time Alone, With Balance

Spend time on your own, with just yourself. This is time, that you aren’t watching the TV, scrolling social media, or distracted by fifty other things going on in life. This should be time you spend in near meditation, thinking to yourself. And, when you're done, do something productive with your time. See your friends on occasion. You want to maintain healthy relationships, and still have time for yourself.

Life is all about balance. Keep things in perspective. Only when life becomes unbalanced does life really suck. It isn’t possible to have fun all the time, you need to work, and play, and work on yourself too. How much time you need to work on yourself, depends on how you are. The worse you're doing, the more time you need to spend with just yourself.

As Henry Rollins says:

“Solitary confinement, solitary refinement.”

Practice Gratitude Now

Once you cut out the self pity, then practice your gratitude. You will have more to be really happy about if your not in a self absorbed pity party.

Practicing gratitude is good for you, but only when the real problem has been solved, or at least understood. When you understand what the real problem is, then you have a problem to try and fix. Put your effort into that. Do your own research. Find out.

Be Creative

Everyone is an artist. Most people just forget about their real talents. Wake them back up, and start living life. Do something that takes you some effort. If you only do what is easy, doing difficult things seems impossible. Try doing some of the stuff that feels impossible, and after long enough you're doing more than you ever dreamed possible. Take small steps, everyday to work towards doing more, better. Chip away at projects, until you complete them. Take your time, and enjoy the journey.

Spend Time With People That Are Good For You

This is very important. You become like the five people you spend time with. You want to be careful who you let into your circle. At the same time, you want to build others up, and help them grow. This might mean having to spend time with someone that your trying to lift up. There are ways to do this and be successful. Who knows, maybe they will become a friend someday. You help enough people to wake up, and take care of themselves, someday you will have a lot of real friends that love you.